I had the joy of meeting many year 7 parents at parent evening before Christmas. Thank you all for your feedback and insight.

It had been said “that we are a lot like others, somewhat like others and uniquely us“. And yes, there is no one exactly like your child. And you are probably aware of your child’s uniqueness – their ‘querks’, their habits, their eccentricities. Is it the way they walk, the way they hold their arms when they stand still, the clothes they choose, the way they dive-into stuff without a thought, or hold back, or that reflective in-breath when you ask them a tricky question? Is it the way they challenge you on everything, or their willingness to please …??. You get to know what to expect with your child (even if that is to expect the unexpected!). We call those ‘traits’ or ‘tendencies’. We are all far more ‘predictable’ than you might imagine!

Every child in Year 7 at Copthorne Prep has undertaken a workshop on Behaviour and communication and studied the DISC Model of human behaviour. This showed them their consistent traits and ‘tendencies’ of behaviour.

Whilst learning a simple behavioural model (DISC, which is highly validated, reliable and consistent) each student can become aware of:

Their unique personality style – how they think, feel and act in certain ways.

  • Their Strengths.
  • Similarities and differences with others.
  • How others might see them.
  • Motivators and de-motivators.

Priorities and decision style

They start to understand themselves and others (“seek first to understand, then to be understood”, S. Covey’) – a critical skill for related to emotional intelligence and social competence.

So what are your consistent ‘traits’ and behaviours? … and how do your traits represent strengths and struggles when you ‘relate’ with your child?

How about noticing behaviour of you and your child, a little more closely? Here are some questions about pace and energy to help you …

Are you/your child …

fast paced, outgoing, energetic, involved, optimistic, proactive. Is their ‘energy-motor’ revving?

OR

Are you/your child …

private, thoughtful, reflective, steady, careful, diplomatic, methodical. Is their ‘energy-motor’ humming steadily?

Do you/your child …

speak and move with a lot of energy and have facial expressions with passion and animation? You know what they are thinking because they tell you! Do they look outward for answers and speak to think?

OR

Do you/your child …

speak quietly, less forcefully with gestures and expressions that are more guarded. Is it sometimes difficult to know what they are thinking? Do they look inward for answers and think before they speak?